7 Ways to Expand your Social Circle and Find your Tribe
As we cross into adulthood, one of the things that we often struggle with is the ability to make friends. Let your mind float back to when you were between the ages of three and seven. How did you make friends? For most of us, it was as simple as going up to another kid at school, on your block, or at the playground and asking, "Do you want to play?" As a child, thoughts of rejection rarely crossed your mind because if they did, you probably wouldn't have asked. You didn't worry about your clothes, how you might be perceived, or what to say; you let the game and your imagination take center stage.
As we have grown older, we have become more self-conscious, fear rejection, and spend time repeating what we can say in our heads to sound more exciting or likable. If you resonate with this message, here are some ways to explore making friends.
Connect Over Hobbies
We all have something that we enjoy, and connecting over hobbies can make it easier to introduce yourself and have something to talk about. Join a club, take a class, or attend meet-ups related to your interests. Whether it's painting, hiking, reading, or cooking, engaging in activities you love can naturally lead to conversations and friendships.
Volunteer Together
Volunteering is a powerful way to meet people who share your values. By working together towards a common cause, you create bonds through shared experiences. It's also a great way to give back to your community while expanding your social circle.
Be Open and Approachable
Sometimes, the simple act of being open and approachable can make a big difference. Smile, make eye contact, and be genuinely interested in getting to know others. Ask questions and listen actively. Showing that you are friendly and interested can make others feel comfortable and valued.
Reconnect with Old Friends
Don't overlook the friends you've made in the past. Life gets busy, and losing touch is easy, but reaching out to old friends can rekindle meaningful connections. A simple message or phone call can reopen doors that have been closed for too long.
Attend Social Events
Put yourself out there by attending social events, parties, and gatherings. Even if it feels intimidating at first, these events are prime opportunities to meet new people. Practice introducing yourself and striking up conversations. Remember, everyone is there to have a good time and meet others.
Use Social Media Wisely
Social media platforms can be valuable tools for making new friends and staying connected. Join groups that align with your interests, participate in discussions, and don't hesitate to reach out to people. However, online interactions should be balanced with real-life meetings to build deeper, more genuine relationships.
Practice Patience and Persistence
Building friendships takes time and effort. Don't get discouraged if you don't find your tribe right away. Keep putting yourself out there, be patient, and remain persistent. True friendships are worth the wait and the effort.
Making friends as an adult may seem daunting, but it is entirely possible by revisiting the simplicity of childhood interactions and embracing new strategies. Embrace your authentic self, be open to new experiences, and soon, you'll find yourself surrounded by friends who enrich your life.
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If you're looking to make new friends and connect with Chicago communities, these resources offer a variety of opportunities tailored to different interests. Whether through hobbies, cultural events, or professional networks, these links will help you find your tribe and build meaningful connections.
Ayodele Drum & Dance
Provides classes in West African dance and drumming, as well as workshops and performances celebrating African culture
Join groups and events that bring together Black professionals and community members for networking, socializing, and cultural events.
Join running groups and fitness events aimed at promoting a healthy lifestyle among African American women
Black Professionals Network (BPN) Chicago
Connect with other Black professionals through networking events, social gatherings, and professional development opportunities
Explore various recreational activities, sports leagues, and community events offered by the Chicago Park District.
Enroll in photography classes and join photo walks to connect with other photography enthusiasts.
Participate in book clubs, workshops, and other social events organized by the Chicago Public Library.
Participate in hands-on cooking classes and food tours.
Party while cooking! There are a variety of fun events such as: Kooking & Karaoke, Dinner & Dancing Lessons, Cooking & Comedy, Cooking & Queens, and Cooking & Magic Shows. They always pair fun stuff with cooking,
Lillstreet Art Center
Provides classes in ceramics, drawing, painting, photography, textiles, and more.
Meetup is a great platform to find groups and events based on your interests in the Chicago area.
Muntu Dance Theatre of Chicago
Offers classes in traditional African dance and drumming, as well as performances and cultural events.
Red Clay Dance Company
Provides West African, House/Hip-Hop, Tap, etc.as well as workshops and performances promoting cultural awareness and social justice.
StoryStudio Chicago
Offers creative writing classes, workshops, and events for writers of all levels.
The Second City Classes and Workshops
Take improv, comedy, or writing classes at The Second City to meet creative individuals and improve your skills.
Attend community events, cultural celebrations, and art shows at The Silver Room, a hub for Black culture and creativity in Chicago.
Find volunteer opportunities in Chicago to connect with like-minded individuals while giving back to the community.
